Relationships are the golden ticket to thriving leading a team. It holds a team together and makes it more resilient, engaged, and happier. It’s a gift when someone picks you, especially, to share about their good news, excitement, or what they consider a success. It turns out that how we react to positive events is a better predictor of our relationship’s long-term success.
According to psychologist Dr. Shelly Gable, we could classify our reactions to positive disclosure based on two dimensions.
The Constructive – Destructive dimension where a constructive response may include a few positive suggestions and is encouraging, and the destructive response is discouraging and perhaps even demeaning.
The second dimension would be the Active-Passive; active responding shows interest and engagement, while on the other hand, passive responding shows no interest and detachment.
Classifying our response along these two dimensions, we get four different types of possible reactions to positive events shared with us:
Using Active Constructive Responding is more likely to help you develop more robust and meaningful relationships.